Company: Management Momentum
Professional Industry: Career Coaching
Job Title: President
WIXII-ISM™ FROM BRENDA ABDILLA:
“I had all the best tools to work when my son was little (committed husband, one child, help, a thriving career, supportive family) and it was still hard, hard, hard.”
Meet our featured Wixii™, Brenda Abdilla. She is in her early 50s and mother to a 16 year-old son. She studied Business at the University of Phoenix while working full time in sales management. She is a certified career coach, author, leadership expert, and the founder of Management Momentum LLC. For over 13 years, Brenda traveled the world as a professional speaker, business consultant, and executive recruiter, working with thousands top-level professionals in the areas of sales, management, and leadership. She recently published What’s Your Lane?: Career clarity for moms who want to work a little, a lot or not at all and inspires women the find the lane they love. Her parents immigrated from Malta and she attributes much of her work ethic to their example.
BRENDA’S CAREER PATH:
I worked full-time through college, as I was on my own. I found my talent in sales and excelled in the hospitality industry. By the time I was 29, I started my own company as a sales trainer (got fired first, which helped). Somehow, I developed a market world-wide and traveled the world doing sales and sales management training. I wrote two hospitality-industry books in the 90’s and got picked up by a small publisher. The sales training developed into consulting and the consulting into recruitment and then coaching, and in 2007, I started really coaching more and more. Now I do only coaching, and I just finished a book for moms in the area of career.
BRENDA’S MINDSET AND WORK-LIFE MIX:
I am a very positive and practical person. My passion is in the realm of empowerment. I empower myself and others and would love to see women and girls more empowered on our planet.
The subjects above are what inspired me to write my book, What’s Your Lane? Career clarity for moms who want to work a little, a lot or not at all. I had all the best tools to work when my son was little (committed husband, one child, help, a thriving career, supportive family) and it was still hard, hard, hard. All better now.
Work: how do you “think outside the box” with respect to your work-life potential and opportunities?
I believe that we cannot let others set the standards for us (spoken or unspoken). We each have such a unique mix of beliefs and standards and needs that it is impossible when we compare and add the standards of others to the mix.
Family: how do you build meaningful relationships with the people who matter most in your life?
We all have way too much going on, so I really focus on being in the moment. It is a lifelong skill to build, but it is worth the effort.
What specific actions, choices, steps and/or decisions have you made (or would you like to make) to better manage your work-life mix?
I abide by the Dr. Phil advice of “stop complaining and start requesting.” When I am feeling bitter or resentment it is my sign that I am doing too much and sure bet that others in my home are not. I ask for what I want and need and it works. Everyone wins this way.
What advice would you give an earlier version of yourself?
Stop worrying so much. Definitely stop worrying.