Name: Pamela Benison
Location: Denver, CO
Professional Industry: Mindfulness Psychotherapy
Company: Integrated Wellness, Inc
Job Title: Psychotherapist
WIXII-ISM™ FROM PAMELA:
“Did you hear the alarm clock go off in your soul today? Did you hear the chimes saying, “Wake up, be aware and connect to your Self today! ”
Meet our featured Wixii™, Pamela Benison. She is 65 and mother to 3 sons, 36, 34, & 30. She studied at Michigan State University where she graduated with a degree in English and Psychology, then, went on to earn a Master’s degree from the University of Denver in Education. She is a certified Gestalt Psychotherapist and a Fellow in the American Psychotherapy Association. She enjoys working with teenagers, adults, and couples. She has developed a specialty in “mindfulness psychotherapy” and teaches meditation to groups of women. Her work combines the best practices in science, psychotherapy and spirituality.
Unique Fact: I love to dance. I find dancing is an avenue for my vitality. I get to flirt with my dance partner, then thank him when the dance ends. In five minutes, we have shared contact through our eyes, smiles, steps and embrace. It is the best of play between a man and a woman.
PAM’S CAREER PATH:
I learned to meditate in 1974 while I was in graduate school. After practicing meditation for 3 months I noticed while studying, my mind was so focused, clear…it was as if I had a photographic memory! I was hooked and still am. After graduating in 1975, I taught high school students with learning disabilities and coached the girls’ gymnastic team at Abraham Lincoln High School in Denver. I realized that I not only enjoyed teaching, but also loved counseling the teens. After my first son was born, I went back to school and became a Gestalt psychotherapist. I became involved with studying bioenergetics, breath work, Jin Shin Jyutsu (acupressure) mind-body therapies, dream interpretation. I have been shaped by amazing teachers in the fields of spiritual and psychological development. My Tibetan Buddhist teachers include Sogyal Rimpoche, Tulku Thondup, & Shylpa Rimpoche (whom I went with to Tibet on a Pilgrimage in 2000). Dr. Claudio Naranjo, Father Richard Rohr, Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson were my Enneagram teachers. Brugh Joy was my dream interpretation mentor. Each of them inspired me to teach and value the imaginative risks that exist in liminal space. I have taught numerous classes on the Enneagram, various women’s personal growth groups, and most recently have been set on fire to teach, “Meditation in Everyday Life” or mindfully mothering yourself into an awake woman. I thank each one of the mentioned illustrious men for encouraging my desire to grow, let go, see through the illusions of my ego, laugh at myself, be centered in most moments and meditate always.
PAMELA’S MINDSET AND WORK-LIFE MIX:
Life is a dream. I create the best story for my dream both at work and play. I am very positive. As Deepak Chopra says, “Imagination at it’s best is used for creativity. Imagination at it’s worse is anxiety.”
Work: how do you “think outside the box” with respect to your work-life potential and opportunities?
What box? Where is it?
Family: how do you build meaningful relationships with the people who matter most in your life?
I see into my sons’ essence. I support and believe in them no matter what. I cultivate family rituals that bond us to our past delights and maintain a shared value for activities that allow us to play, laugh, and love on each. We encourage each other to be our best through the examples we set for each other.
Self: how do you strengthen your own identity and not lose yourself in the mix?
I am usually not lost in the mix because I wake up everyday and spend time in contemplation and connection with my soul. These are my moments to journal, read, or meditate. This initial ritual organically regulates me and becomes the action of my engagement with people throughout the day. I have done this since I was in my twenties and it is in the very fabric of my morning.
How does your current mindset/attitude empower and/or frustrate your ability to thrive in your work-life mix? How has your mindset/attitude toward life changed over time?
At age 65, I have a sense of mastery professionally that is very calming. I want to teach and share what I have learned. I want to ask women powerful questions about what they want and create a way to bring this desire to fruition. I have always been a seeker for truth. I love seeing how women light up when new connections are made that lighten and enlighten their “place.” In this “place,” they can make contact with new choices and experiences. When real change occurs, we connect with levels of the “self” that are harmonious with each other and aligned with the motivation to implement the changes.